Sexiness, much more than beauty, is very subjective. What I find sexy, you may not find sexy — and vice versa.
There’s a strong correlation between what we find attractive and social status/financial stability. Having nice clothes, being groomed, even being healthy all costs money. We find people who are well-off more attractive than those who aren’t. We’re attracted to people who are most likely to provide a comfortable life for us and our offspring. We find people attractive when we believe they have an innate greatness.
However, attractiveness and sexiness aren’t exactly one and the same. Sexiness is subjective.
There are plenty of non-sexual qualities that make a women incredibly sexy. Ladies, if your man doesn’t find you sexy for these reasons, then you may be better off with another man. Guys, if you don’t find women sexy for these reasons, then you need to reassess your thinking a bit.
I’d say to each his own, but you’ll regret not being capable of appreciating a woman for the right reasons.
1. The way she walks
Get that image of hip swaying and dipping out of your head. That’s not what I’m talking about.
It’s not about the way she actually walks. It’s about the way she walks into a room and somehow instantly catches your attention. It’s the vibration she gives off, so even when your eyes can’t see her, you can nonetheless feel her presence.
2. The way her eyes don’t look at you, but into you
People look judge all the time. We’ve adapted to do these things to keep ourselves out of harm’s way.
It’s easy to judge someone from the outside. Judging someone’s soul, on the other hand, is different. She doesn’t judge you. She simply sees you.
3. The confidence she has in all the things she does
It’s one thing to be confident — anyone can be confident — but that’s not what makes her sexy. Having confidence because you deserve that confidence — now that’s sexy.