If your man avoids touching you there, it’s because he’s…

For years, Sarah thought Daniel was simply “gentle.”
He never rushed her, never pushed. Always kind, always careful.
But sometimes, being careful can feel like distance.

It started small—the way his hands lingered on her shoulders, her waist, but always stopped just short of where she wanted them most. The way he’d pull her close but let go too soon. The way he’d turn off the lights, as if pretending darkness could cover what he refused to face.

At first, she told herself it was love. That his restraint meant respect.
But after fifteen years of marriage, “respect” had started to sound like silence.

One evening, after dinner, she found him sitting on the edge of their bed, elbows on his knees, lost in thought. His wedding ring glinted in the soft lamplight, but his eyes were far away.

“Daniel,” she said quietly, “you never touch me anymore. Not there.

The air tightened between them. He looked up—startled, almost guilty.
“I do,” he murmured, though they both knew he didn’t.

Sarah moved closer, her robe slipping slightly from one shoulder. She wasn’t trying to provoke him—not exactly. But she wanted to be seen. To be reached for.
When he didn’t, she asked, “Why do you stop?”

He hesitated, then said something she hadn’t expected.
“Because when I touch you there,” he said softly, “I feel everything I’ve lost.”

Her breath caught. He didn’t mean it cruelly. He meant honestly.

He’d been avoiding not her body, but his own reflection in it—the reminder of the man he used to be. The confident, reckless man who’d once pulled her against the wall of their tiny apartment and made her forget what day it was.

Now he measured every move. Afraid to want too much. Afraid to fail her.
Afraid she’d notice that he no longer knew how to make her gasp.

She reached for his hand. It was rougher than she remembered. When she guided it to her thigh, he didn’t resist—but he didn’t move either.

“Do you think I don’t miss you?” she whispered. “Because I do. Every day.”

His fingers flexed, trembling slightly. Then, finally, he looked at her—not the version of her he’d grown used to, but her.
The woman whose body had changed, softened, aged, yes—but still carried the same warmth that once made him wild.

He leaned in. His forehead rested against hers. For the first time in months, his breath mixed with hers, slow and uneven.

When his hand finally moved lower, it wasn’t lust—it was surrender.
He wasn’t avoiding her anymore. He was facing the part of himself he’d buried under years of fear and routine.

And she understood then—when a man avoids touching you there, it isn’t always rejection.
Sometimes it’s regret.
Sometimes it’s because he’s afraid of feeling too much.

Because that place—soft, intimate, familiar—isn’t just physical. It’s where the truth lives.
The truth about what you’ve lost, and what you still crave.
The truth about how long it’s been since you really saw each other.

When he finally whispered her name against her skin, it wasn’t passion that broke her—it was relief.

The kind that comes when silence ends.
The kind that feels like coming home.