
At first, it feels flattering. He wants your legs high, wrapped around his shoulders, or lifted onto his hips. He says it’s because it feels better—deeper, tighter, more exciting. And maybe it does. But if that’s always the position he pushes for… you have to ask yourself: why does he need you like that?
Because positioning isn’t just about physical sensation. Sometimes, it’s about power. Control. A desire to see you exposed, tilted, helpless—even if just for a moment.
When a man insists on having your legs lifted, especially when he takes charge without asking, he may be trying to place you in a space where he doesn’t have to be vulnerable. With you on your back and legs high, your body becomes open—but his emotions stay hidden. He gets to dominate without truly showing himself.
This is more common in older men than you might expect. With age comes not just physical change, but emotional fear—fear of rejection, of inadequacy, of not being enough. So instead of slowing down and meeting your eyes, he angles your body to distract both of you from what he’s afraid to say: “I need to feel powerful again.”
But here’s the truth—he doesn’t need you to fold yourself up like a fantasy to feel wanted. What he really craves is reassurance. Not through words, but through your willingness to let him be seen, held, maybe even… overpowered in return.
Next time he grabs your hips and lifts your legs, don’t resist—but don’t surrender completely. Pull him closer. Ask him to stay there, not just physically—but with his breath, his eyes, his honesty. You may discover that what he’s been chasing in your body… is the safety to let go in his own.