What drives a married man to look for another woman?
In many relationships, there comes a point where one partner feels something isn’t working anymore. For some married men, the search for a mistress isn’t always out of love or unbridled passion, but rather because of emotional voids and problems they don’t know how to or don’t want to face.
The most frequent reasons
- He feels emotionally ignored: There are no more kind words or affectionate gestures. He feels like he’s no longer important to his wife.
- Tired of routine: Days become the same, and relationships become predictable. You seek adrenaline, novelty, something that makes you feel alive.
- Lack of desire or intimacy: When the physical connection disappears, some look outside for what they no longer find at home.
- He needs to feel attractive: The lover represents the validation he no longer feels in his relationship. He likes knowing he can still win people over.
- Avoids conflict: Instead of talking and resolving issues with his wife, he chooses to emotionally flee into another relationship that seems easier.
But many times… the problem is him
While these reasons may seem justified on the surface, the reality is often harsher: often the real problem is him. A man who doesn’t know how to face his feelings, who lacks the emotional maturity to fix what’s broken, or who simply wants everything without giving up anything.
- Immaturity: Does not want to take responsibility for relationship problems.
- Selfishness: Thinks first about his pleasure rather than the harm he may cause.
- Fantasy of having it all: Wants the stability of home and the excitement of romance, without losing either.