We were aware he wouldn’t arrive at campus.
The solitary walk from the parking lot to the stadium would have exhausted him. The doctors were straightforward—weeks, perhaps days. However, Dad was quite resolute. And filled with pride. He often expressed his desire to witness me walking across that stage, diploma in hand.
I brought the stage to him.
I reached out to my dean, considering it might be a bit of a gamble. “Is there a possibility,” I inquired, “that you could bring the ceremony to us?” After two hours, he replied: “We’re on it.”
Suddenly, a small army of maroon appeared on our front lawn that morning, the day that was meant to be my graduation. Professors, administrative staff, and even a few individuals from Dad’s former Aggie class. A podium was set up by the garage. My robe had creases. My tassel was facing the wrong way.
Everything was inconsequential.
As I rounded the corner and caught sight of my dad—wrapped in that familiar university blanket, an oxygen tank beside him, his eyes already brimming with tears—I felt my composure slipping away.
He held my hand tightly the entire time I was there. As they presented me with the diploma and announced my name, he offered a slow, unsteady thumbs-up. The kind that speaks volumes when words fall short.
At that moment, as the applause filled the air, he leaned in and whispered something so softly that only I caught it.
He instructed, “Now open the back pocket.”
Initially, I frowned, feeling perplexed. Which back pocket? It was then that I understood he was referring to my gown. I reached around awkwardly while remaining in place, half-expecting to find nothing but lint. Instead, my fingers glided over the paper. With great care, I extracted it—a folded letter, aged and yellowed, creased as if it had been perused countless times before.
“What is this?” I inquired, my voice trembling.
“I’ll read it later,” he whispered, his breaths light. “Whenever you feel prepared.”
Following the ceremony, the guests remained for cake and lemonade beneath our grand oak tree. Mom continued to move about energetically, ensuring that everyone had plenty to eat, even as her hands shook while she filled the glasses. She frequently looked over at Dad, who was propped up in his wheelchair, offering a faint smile even though he appeared weary.
I slipped the letter into my jeans pocket, feeling too overwhelmed to process it at that moment. I meandered through the throng, receiving embraces and well-wishes, experiencing a mix of gratitude and a weighty heart. Individuals shared with me the uniqueness of the experience, expressing the profound sense of love that permeated the atmosphere. It was a special occasion, yet it carried a bittersweet feeling, as we realized this could be one of the final significant moments we would experience together as a family.
As the sun sank lower, stretching shadows across the driveway, Dad gestured for me to approach. He appeared smaller than ever, almost delicate, yet his eyes still radiated that spark of determination I had always admired.
“You performed well today,” he said gently. “You’ve made your father proud.”
“I couldn’t have achieved this without you,” I responded, fighting back tears. “You have been my greatest teacher.”
His lips curled into a subtle smile. “Not entirely everything,” he replied. “That letter… it contains thoughts I never had the chance to express.”
Before I could inquire further, he shut his eyes, tilting his head back. I assumed he had drifted off, so I quietly moved away, allowing him to rest.
Later that night, after all the chairs were neatly stacked and the leftovers carefully packed away, I found myself alone in my room, gazing at the envelope. The house remained quiet, save for the soft hum of the refrigerator below. My heart raced as I carefully unfolded the letter, laying it flat on my desk.
The handwriting was clearly Dad’s—untidy yet intentional, each word angled slightly upward as if he were hurrying but making an effort to keep it tidy.
Dear Riley,
If you are reading this, it is likely that I am no longer here. Perhaps I am, yet expressing these thoughts in person is difficult for me. I want to share something significant with you.
To begin, I want to express my sincere apologies. I apologize for the moments when I lacked patience, for the disagreements we faced over trivial matters, and for not being the ideal father I aspired to be. Life can be chaotic, and at times, I have made mistakes. I want you to understand that I put forth my utmost effort every single day.
I must extend my sincerest apologies to you. A substantial one. There’s a truth I’ve kept from you, a weight I’ve borne for years because I struggled to find the right words. From the moment you came into this world, I made a vow to improve myself—for you and your mother. However, I did not succeed. Not merely once, but in manners that influenced our lives in ways I wish I could change.
Prior to your arrival, I erred. An unfavorable one. I took out a loan that I was unable to repay, believing I could resolve the situation swiftly. However, it became unmanageable, and I ultimately lost the majority of what we possessed. That’s the reason we relocated to that small house on the outskirts of town, why your mom took on additional shifts at the diner, and why Christmas mornings were more modest than they ought to have been.
I repeatedly assured myself that I would discover a means to rectify the situation, yet the reality is, I was unable to do so. When you reached an age where you could understand, I had already persuaded myself that it was for the best if you remained unaware. It would be preferable if you perceived us as simply… everyday individuals striving to make ends meet.
As I watch you graduate and reflect on the person you’ve become, I can’t help but acknowledge how mistaken I was. Honesty is something you rightfully deserve, regardless of the timing.
This is the other part of the letter—the reason I am presenting it to you at this moment. Some time ago, I began to save money whenever I had the opportunity. Not a lot, but sufficient to accumulate gradually. It’s not stored in the bank—it’s concealed in the attic, behind the loose panel above the stairs. Utilize it in any way that suits your needs. Eliminate debts, pursue aspirations, or set it aside for unforeseen circumstances. Anything that aids your progress.
I hope you can understand why I’ve chosen to keep this secret. I trust that you will hold onto the lessons I aimed to impart: put in the effort, take responsibility for your actions, and always strive for what is important.
With all my love, Dad
I gazed at the page, my heart constricted with feeling. Shock, anger, and sadness intertwined, leaving me uncertain of my emotions. All those years, all those struggles—and he had borne that guilt in solitude?
I quietly ascended the stairs to the attic, flashlight clutched in my hand. Indeed, concealed behind the loose panel, I discovered a small metal box. Within were neatly arranged stacks of cash, bundled with precision, accompanied by a ledger that meticulously recorded each deposit. A significant amount of money. Sufficient to transform my existence.
For a brief instant, I felt an urge to shout. To weep. To toss the box across the room. How could he possibly withhold this from me? How could he possibly take on such a heavy burden without seeking assistance?
But then I recalled his expression from earlier that day—the pride shining in his eyes, the determination it took for him to remain seated and watch me cross our makeshift stage. He had not done it for his own sake. He had accomplished it for my sake.
The following morning, I took a seat next to Dad’s bed, grasping his hand gently. His breathing had become labored, with each inhale presenting a challenge. Nevertheless, he opened his eyes upon sensing my presence.
“I have read your letter,” I said gently.
He nodded faintly, biding his time.
“I’m upset with you,” I confessed. “However, I also feel a sense of pride.” I’m really impressed by your decision to follow what you believed was right. In an effort to safeguard us.
A tear rolled down his cheek. “That doesn’t justify it,” he rasped.
“No,” I concurred. “However, it clarifies the matter.”
We remained quiet for a time, simply embracing one another. In the end, I moved in closer and softly said, “Thank you.”
He offered me the slightest smile before shutting his eyes once more.
Dad departed peacefully two days later, enveloped by family. In the weeks that followed, I allocated the funds to settle my student loans and establish a scholarship fund in his honor—for children who required a second chance, just as he once did.
Completely forgiving him was not an easy task. Some wounds penetrate profoundly. However, I came to an important realization: forgiveness does not equate to forgetting. It’s about releasing the burden that holds you back.
Life can be quite chaotic. Individuals can err. Yet love—even when it has its flaws and imperfections—can lead us onward.
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