You can tell a lot about a relationship by what happens between the sheets. Some couples kiss constantly—breathless, messy, urgent—while others hardly touch lips at all. If kissing isn’t part of your love-making, it might be due to reasons you’ve never fully considered.
One is habit. Couples fall into routines, and somewhere along the way, kissing slips out of the script. They go straight to the touch, the undressing, the mechanics, skipping the mouth-to-mouth connection. Over time, it can feel “normal” to not kiss, until the absence becomes invisible… but still felt.
Another is emotional distance. If there’s tension outside the bedroom—arguments, stress, unspoken resentment—it often shows up between the sheets. Kissing, which requires closeness and warmth, is the first thing to go when there’s an invisible wall between you.
It could also be about the type of intimacy you’re having. For some people, kissing is linked to romance, tenderness, even love. If the energy between you is more urgent or physical than emotional, they might skip kissing altogether without realizing it.
But here’s where it gets interesting—kissing can also be the bridge back to emotional closeness. The act itself slows you down, forces you to feel, to linger. Next time you’re together, try starting with nothing but kissing. No rushing to the next step. Let the kiss be the main event for a while.
Because when lips meet—really meet—it can awaken something you both forgot you needed. And once you remember, you may find it becomes impossible to leave kissing out of your love-making again.